All posts by CJ

About CJ

CJ is a Brit living in America who wholeheartedly embraces the worst of both cultures, including British sarcasm and Californian New Age mumbo-jumbo. She is the author of the forthcoming book, Adulterer’s Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not.

12 Gifts for a Cheating Ex 2024 (Vol. 8)

Comedy, Infidelity

I have more outrageous gifts for you in this, the eighth year I have done my Xmas Gifts for an Unfaithful Ex blog. If you’d like more ideas in the same vein as these gifts for 2024, take a look at my 2016, 2018, 2019, 2020, 2021, 2022 and 2023 lists. Up to and including this year’s blog, I have presented a total of 96 items for your fun and edification. They will be the focus of my third book, coming out next year, organized into various useful categories. The female form and the male form will have their own separate chapters. Continue reading 12 Gifts for a Cheating Ex 2024 (Vol. 8) →

Are Gender Affirming Practices Carcinogenic?

Breast Cancer, Social Commentary


As a two-time breast cancer survivor and BBC-trained journalist, I have done a significant amount of research into the causes of cancer. My self-help memoir, My Wild Ride: How to Thrive After Breast Cancer and Infidelity, not only includes cartoons and humor, but also a bibliography referencing nearly 70 books and more than 100 articles and studies. Continue reading Are Gender Affirming Practices Carcinogenic? →

Is God Racist and Anti-Semitic? If So, Can We Fight Back by Ditching Our Bras?

Breast Cancer, Social Commentary, Women's Rights

Bra-less Jewish woman in a black dress with star of David medallion.I consider myself quite a spiritual person, so why am I saying something that folks might find spiritually outrageous? Most of us are aware of the history of black slavery in America and the Holocaust in Europe but something else is happening right now. Did you know that young black women have about double the death rate from breast cancer as white women? Continue reading Is God Racist and Anti-Semitic? If So, Can We Fight Back by Ditching Our Bras? →

Sparring with ChatGPT on Bras and Cancer

Breast Cancer, Social Commentary

Female robot with blue eyes and a pink bra by angel8888 from DepositPhotos modified with bra by CJ grace

Bare Facts or a Bare-Faced Lie?

Numerous studies support a strong link between bras and breast cancer. Yet mainstream search engines focus on a flawed 2014 study that did not show a connection and insist that no credible evidence exists showing otherwise. What about the much-vaunted new AI tool, available in free and paid versions, ChatGPT, that everyone is raving about to solve their research and copy writing needs? Continue reading Sparring with ChatGPT on Bras and Cancer →

If Breaking Up with Your Bra Is Hard to Do…

Breast Cancer, Social Commentary

In many indigenous cultures in Africa and South America, it is generally acceptable for both men and women to go without clothing that covers the torso. Yet in the West, women going topless in public might face prosecution for indecent exposure. William J. Mayo MD, one of the founders of the Mayo Clinic, wrote in the article “Susceptibility to Cancer,” published in the 1931 Annals of Surgery, that “Cancer of the breast occurs largely among civilized women. In those countries where breasts are allowed to be exposed, that is, are not compressed or irritated by clothing, it is rare.” Continue reading If Breaking Up with Your Bra Is Hard to Do… →

Busting Myth-Buster Myths: Bras and Cancer According to Google

Breast Cancer

3 pink bras arranged around 2 "Stick it to breast cancer" signsIf you want to see the online censorship of health issues in action, look no further than the link between bras and breast cancer.

Here’s the top result on Google:
“There is no credible research showing a link between wearing, or not wearing, a bra and developing breast cancer. Continue reading Busting Myth-Buster Myths: Bras and Cancer According to Google →

How Humor Boosts Confidence

Adultery, Breast Cancer, Comedy, Infidelity
Monty Python crew on stage at the O2 Arena in London in 2014. Eduardo Unda-Sanzana, Wikimedia Commons
The Pythons at the O2 Arena in London in 2014. I was in the audience. Photo by Eduardo Unda-Sanzana, Wikimedia Commons

Unattractive. Old. Not enough. How many of us have felt like that? I certainly have. Finding out the man I’d believed to be my soul mate and partner for life was in love with a girl almost the same age as our son shattered my confidence. Continue reading How Humor Boosts Confidence →

Are Infidelity Surveys Worthless?

Adultery, Infidelity, Social Commentary

So say you’re having a secret affair, squeezed into your busy schedule as you juggle your family life with illicit interludes. What would you rather be doing—having torrid sex with your lover or filling out a survey about it? You could always do the survey during family time—just make sure that your spouse isn’t looking over your shoulder. Continue reading Are Infidelity Surveys Worthless? →

Glenda Green Didn’t Want to Read My Book yet Liked It!

Breast Cancer, Infidelity, Social Commentary
Glenda Green poses next to her painting, First Light, which graces the cover of her bestselling book, "Love without End."
Glenda Green with her painting, First Light, which graces the cover of her bestselling book, “Love Without End.” Photo by CJ Grace.

The comedy self-help memoir I’ve just had published, “My Wild Ride: How to Thrive After Breast Cancer and Infidelity,” references almost 70 books, including one of the most quoted books in modern spiritual literature, the bestseller “Love without End” by Glenda Green. Continue reading Glenda Green Didn’t Want to Read My Book yet Liked It! →

Christmas Gifts for an Unfaithful Ex 2022

Adultery, Comedy, Infidelity

This year’s gifts are hypocritical, vulgar, inconsistent with my mission message and politically incorrect. But as I once heard Love Without End author Glenda Green say, “politically correct” is always political and rarely correct. Yes, I know that the mantra of my comic self-help book, Adulterer’s Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not, is that the best revenge is to get past the need for it, but at least for my annual Christmas gift list, humor trumps platitudes. Continue reading Christmas Gifts for an Unfaithful Ex 2022 →

Breast Cancer: Humor as Healing

Breast Cancer, Social Commentary

CJ Grace speaking at the Global Breast Cancer Conference on October 5, 2022, holds up a Monty Python Spamalot badge reading, "I'm not dead yet!"

I had a motto while dealing with both breast cancer and an unfaithful husband: “If you don’t laugh, you’ll cry.” I tried to find absurd humor in every situation I was faced with and wanted to avoid the cancer victim mentality. I’m a two-time breast cancer survivor with a mutated BRCA gene that makes me more susceptible to cancer. Continue reading Breast Cancer: Humor as Healing →

Roller Coaster Ride with CJ Grace: Review by Paul Janes-Brown

Breast Cancer, Infidelity

My Wild Ride: How to Thrive After Breast Cancer and Infidelity is the latest book by CJ Grace. Her first, Adulterer’s Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not, covered infidelity issues. My Wild Ride is an in-depth, how-to guide, thoroughly researched, filled with anecdotes and generously dosed with Ms. Grace’s sardonic, Pythonesque humor. Continue reading Roller Coaster Ride with CJ Grace: Review by Paul Janes-Brown →