Category Archives: Infidelity

Anna Rowe Defends Her Anti-Catfishing Petition

I came across CJ Grace’s blog, Anna Rowe’s Anti-Catfishing Petition Misguided, and disagreed with some of her assumptions, so I contacted her to explain my point of view. We began a dialogue together and CJ, the author of Adulterer’s Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not, invited me to post this guest blog on her website adultererswife.com.

I live in Britain, which has taken a strong stance against grooming children—building an emotional connection with a child to gain his or her trust for the purposes of sexual exploitation. Legislation is in place to protect children up to the age of 15 years and 364 days old, but as soon as you turn 16, there is nothing to protect you against these same abusers. Continue reading Anna Rowe Defends Her Anti-Catfishing Petition

Harvey Weinstein and the 1980s Wandering Hands Era

A Washington Post report by Monica Hesse and Dan Zak alleges systemic sexual assault by movie executive Harvey Weinstein dating back to the 1980s. It reminded me of attitudes towards women that were prevalent when I was working in the media at that time. Certain men I worked with in the BBC in Britain in the early 1980s were known for having what we girls described as “wandering hands syndrome.” Continue reading Harvey Weinstein and the 1980s Wandering Hands Era

Valentine’s Day: Horrible Holiday for Cheaters’ Wives

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You can’t get away from all the paraphernalia about love and romance on Valentine’s Day. If you know your partner is cheating, this holiday will bring up all kinds of negative feelings whether or not he does anything to celebrate the day with you. In some ways the slimebag is damned if he does and damned if he doesn’t. Continue reading Valentine’s Day: Horrible Holiday for Cheaters’ Wives

Choose a Spouse Like You’d Choose a Tenant

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Asset Stripping

Most people would screen prospective tenants or employees more rigorously than a potential spouse. A landlord will want to ensure that a tenant has good credit and is going to pay the rent. Business owners will look at a person’s employment history to decide whether or hire him or her. But doing a background check on a potential mate? Isn’t that rather tacky and unromantic?

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12 Christmas Gifts for a Cheating Ex

I’m being horribly hypocritical writing this list of 12 gifts to mock the man in your life who has let you down. The mantra of my book, Adulterer’s Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not is that revenge is not sweet and the best revenge is to get past the need for it. But I’m not recommending smashing his prized Ming vase or shooting him in the nuts—just some gently sardonic humor at his expense. If you want more ideas, take a look at my 20182019202020212022 and 2023 lists. Some of them even include a new feature—links to any items that are readily available. Continue reading 12 Christmas Gifts for a Cheating Ex

Is He Addicted to Sex with the Other Woman?

An affair has none of the dreary baggage endemic in a long-term relationship. You can devote your time together to sex and romance rather than dealing with the kids or talking about taxes. There’s the excitement of secrecy and stolen moments together. You can indulge in wanton passion as you take a break from the real world, in a bubble that only you and your lover inhabit. Continue reading Is He Addicted to Sex with the Other Woman?

Should Horndog Trump Be President?

Vulgar remarks are not enough to turn me away from voting for Donald Trump. More disturbing to me are his business decisions, political naïveté and policies that seem to invite domestic and international disaster. If I felt he would make a good president, I would vote for him, despite the lewd video from 2005 of his private comments that has just been released by the Washington Post. Continue reading Should Horndog Trump Be President?

Multiple Lovers & Tantric Sex: Quantity vs Quality

Indian rajas were renowned for having thousands of lovers and their pick of the most beautiful women. These rajas and many of their partners were extensively trained in advanced Tantric sex techniques. Yet despite this, according to some of the ancient literature of the time, Indian princes and monarchs often complained that the sex was lackluster and unsatisfying. Continue reading Multiple Lovers & Tantric Sex: Quantity vs Quality

Fidelity Dating vs Ashley Madison

“Life is short. Have an affair.” That’s the slogan of the extramarital dating site ashleymadison.com. No—scratch that. Be faithful. Fidelitydating.com is a dating site launched in January 2015. It tells potential members: “By signing up you agree you are not in a relationship. You will be honest and faithful. The catchphrase is: “Love is precious—be faithful.” Continue reading Fidelity Dating vs Ashley Madison

How Adulterers’ Wives Celebrate Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day can be a depressing time for wives with cheating partners. The family may come together, but celebrations can have a bittersweet flavor. It won’t be like it was before infidelity reared its ugly head. You are unlikely to feel secure in the unwavering love and support of the father of your kids. If you and your husband have already split, maybe your kids will take you to a restaurant, but you might wistfully notice all the intact families around you celebrating at the other tables.

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